For who that don't speak Danish or Irish you might be confused by my title. For all those non-linguist readers I am saying I love you. See know you are all feeling tingly inside that someone just told you that they love you. But it doesn't do a lot of good when you don't understand the meaning.
Language is one of the basic forms of communications around the world, and if you are in a relationship with some one and we don't understand their language we are screwed. And not they are speaking Irish or Danish but everyone has their own way of conversation. Words take on a different meaning, gestures may mean something to me then it does to my neighbor and yelling is just how some people speak while to others it is highly offensive.
This is why it is extremely important to understand each others language. When we seek to understand another person's language it shows them that you love and care for them.
But it is not just words that mean everything, it is all parts of speech that we need to seek to understand. Your words are less than half of what you are saying. This may seem weird but think about it. If someone tells you that they are excited to go on the trip but are saying it super mono-toned voice, you question what they are saying.
Tone = 35%
Non-verbal = 51%
Words = 14%
Ways that we can seek to understand one another are:
- paraphrase but what you heard
- ask questions
- accept it as it is offered (clarify later)
- reflect meaning (or check reasons)
- trial and error
- be intential (don't hide)
- take responsibility
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